Dear Mayim Bialik.

Monday, October 16, 2017

Dear Mayim Bialik | In Response To Harvey Weinstein

Hey Mayim,

I think you're a pretty cool person. I admire your feminism, your love of education, and your views on religion & science.

However, on the subject of sexual assault, I feel you've missed the mark. I think I get the point you were trying to make, and while I agree with some of your statements, like the fact that "we live in a society that has treated women as disposable playmates for far longer than Mr. Weinstein has been meeting ingĂ©nues in luxury hotel rooms," the overall theme that appearance has something to do with assault leaves a sour taste in an otherwise well- written piece. 

Maybe that wasn't the theme you were intending, but it's what jumped out.

In my twenty three years, I have known too many women who have been victim to sexual assault. They come from various backgrounds, are of various ages & races, and in no case should their conventional beauty ‘number’ be a factor. See, when you ostracize ‘pretty girls’, it leaves a damaging notion that only those girls can be assaulted, and that girls must ‘tone it down’ in order to not be plucked out.

While it is true that thin, white, conventionally ‘pretty’ girls get picked first for the good acting roles- & that’s incredibly problematic- it’s also problematic to suggest that because you weren’t seen as a ‘10’, you lucked out in not becoming a victim.

It could’ve been you. 

It could be anyone reading your piece, watching your show. I’ve been catcalled while wearing what most would consider ‘modest.’ It doesn’t matter what you wear, if you go to the gym everyday or get manicures or rock Adele-worthy eyeliner.

Anyone can fall prey to gross, power hungry men (& women) and what we should be focusing on is how to stop it, and somehow I don't think that solution includes changing who you are.


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