Wednesday, April 19, 2017

If you think about it, making friends as a kid can be pretty easy. The big world of school allows for a cast of characters bound to become friends you bond with, sometimes for years. But what about once we're suddenly grown up & we find ourselves clueless on the inner workings of making new friendships? What then?
I can't say I have loads of different friend groups now, but I've definitely gotten out of my comfort zone and expanded. Here's what I've learned so far:
Putting yourself out there is scary. Scary & weird. Not everyone is everyone's cup of tea and you won't mesh with every single person you meet. But you'll find that by opening yourself up to new experiences you're enriching yourself & opening yourself up for new relationships.
Real life isn't like social media. You might be doing a 'duh, Kaeleen,' but for some people this is a radical concept. Real life is real life. We can't hide behind perfectly pretty instagram filters, so why try? Be 100% real life you when meeting new people & the outcome will almost always be better.

You need to actually be social in order to have a social life. If you're like me & would rather give up coffee for the entire week than set foot in a club or bar, it's okay. Those aren't the only places to meet people. In fact, if you think about your hobbies & the things you're passionate about, there's about a 97% chance there's a local club for it. Google (or search, make a plan, and SOCIALIZE! (& for all my fellow introverts/ anxious people who are going ??????, here's a good article to help you. It's geared toward networking but can still be implemented for any social sitch) For me, I've found my church is also a great opportunity. I'm not telling you to go to church, but if you do already, utilize it!
When you find your gang, you'll know it. It'll come naturally. You'll laugh more & love more, and you'll care less about what others think of you. It's like pretty much everything else in life; when you know you'll know!

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